In reflecting about my life, my family, my friends, everything that could have gone wrong, did go wrong. Everything that could go right, did. Nothing more, nothing less. I am thankful for life. Thankful for love. Thankful for peace. Everything has worked effectively to bring me to this moment of reflection and gratitude for life. I know my identity–not trying to create a new one, but I continue to grow and learn in authenticity–remembering not to make it harder than it needs to be for the sake of money, status, power, and self esteem.
As many of us were growing up. We were repeatedly reminded that our main path in life was to: Graduate high school, go to college, get a good job, get married, build a nice picket fenced home in the suburbs, and have a couple of children, To this mindset, we were anchored, but somewhere along the journey, we became obsessed with a lie. That lie was based on the constructed framework that life is in a neat little package, and that everything that we plan will work in our favor.
I want to introduce you to one of my favorite Gentlemanly (alcoholic) beverage. While, I do drink often, I do indulge from time to time. The drink is called a Bellini. It was created in 1948 by Harry Cipriani at Harry’s Bar in Venice, Italy. It was named after 15th Century artist Jacopo Bellini. He names Bellini as his drink had reminded him the color of a Toga one of the artist’s paintings. The combination of indegredient create a wonderfully sophisticated drink that any gentleman or lady can enjoy. The drink became a seasonal speciality at Harry’s Bar. The Bellinis is and IBA (International Bartenders Association) Official Cocktail.
Benjamin Franklin, one of the founders of this great American society and a genius in his own right was a man that lived by principle. He was 20 years old when he made a decision to create framework for a way of living that will transform his entire life. He set out to cultivate his character by recording 13 virtues. His goal was to focus on improving one each week. He tracked his progress using a journal with seven columns for each day of the week. At the top of the page, he wrote “Short Precept”. This was an explanation of what the Virtue meant to him. Each evening, he would make the day with a black spot if he failed that virtue. His goal was to have no black spots.
When accomplishing goals, we can be our own worst enemy. Half of the time we do not realize the effects of our actions until it is too late. We begin to feel stuck, and desperately search for a way out. However, if we identify some behaviors that hold us back, we can begin to turn things around and become our best selves. Here are 10 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself.
In life it there are times when things appear out of our control. Life events, relationships, and projects become disordered at random intervals. We find ourselves asking the question, “How the heck did I get here. Why is there so much pain in my life.” I find myself from time to time asking the same question. We all do.
Have you ever wanted to know the secret sauce of success? It is a simple concept, really. They are small things that we do everyday without realizing their impact. I have come to realize just how these things shape who we are and where we want to go. That secret sauce to achieve the success we want is our habits. Goal achievement is formed through the creation, maintenance and management of habits. The purpose of habits is it to learn to do things quicker, smarter, more efficiently. We create new ones when the need arises. We maintain good habits, by tweaking them into simpler ones to implement. We manage habits by eliminating the bad or useless ones. We all have a number of habits that have led to a number of positive or negative outcomes. Many times these are so ingrained in us that they are subconscious. These usually direct the outcome our efforts. Over time, without consciously thinking about are actions, you come to an internal understanding that if you completed a task in one manner, you need to repeat it that way each time. For example, when stressed out I’d usually end up eating a larger meal. I also ended up gaining a ton of weight!
I have an upcoming post on 7 Ways to Create Habits That Stick. However, first, I wanted to take a moment to write about some of my habits and how they affect my life. After you go through, them I encourage you to write down some of your good and bad habits and how they affect your life.
There comes a point in our life when unexpected events prompt a sudden need for change. These surprises that life offers us take the form of break-ups, disease, job loss, death or even major life decisions. Do you remain stuck grieving events in your past? Perhaps you’ve run up against redundancies of life. Maybe relationships and friendships have become stagnate. It could even be possible that negativity continuously arises when as you participate in various activities.
I’ve learned that when you are trying to reach a goal or do anything of value, change upsets a lot of people’s personal agendas along the way. Friends, family & acquaintances can become your enemies and secretly plot in covert ways in an effort to shine. For far to long they’ve basked in their own mediocrity and are overwhelmed when your convenience to them is taken away. They look for holes and weaknesses, and play petty games.This is their time to shine. But the fruit of mal-intent is short lived. Realize that when enemies rise up against you, the Grace & Favor that got you this far will lead you on. Don’t be angry at anyone because everything comes back to the middle and our naysayers reap the fruit of mal-intent they sowed, for themselves. Smile, keep pushing forward and making progress to where you need to be. Don’t be fearful, be Bold. You just might have to upset some people.
This weekend, I attended the Roanoke Regional Writers Conference with my sister Jasmine. This was such a great conference! I am still on a ‘high’ from all of the information I received. This year’s focus was on blogging which I am engaging in a lot more these days! There were a number of great speakers divided into six sessions. It started at 8:15 and ended at 5:45 with lunch provided. We met some interesting writers that ranged from very accomplished, intermediates (like me) to newbies. There had to be about hundred writers there. There were lots of opportunities to connect with other writers. I even got the opportunity to review a local author’s book. I will post a link to when I am done with a link to his website. The session opened with the presentation of a scholarship to a Hollin’s student who submitted and essay for this scholarship.
Have you ever tried your coffee using the French Press style? My coffee will never go through a machine again! Even Grumpy agrees….despite his expression…Many coffee enthusiasts argue that it is a far more accurate way to have the perfect cup of coffee. It enhances the flavors and oils. The flavor is so bold, smoother and delicious. I used the 8 o’clock Coffee brand of Caramel Macchiato.
It is week three of the #250KChallenge with Bodybuilding.com. I have to admit, I hit a plateau last night. Perhaps, it was due to being stuck inside for three full days since our wonder “Blizzard 2016” wanted to pay us a visit. I tried to remain steadfast in eating at least, but as I was looking in the mirror, I became a bit discouraged. I know I have seen results; however, I thought about how much work is needed to get where I want to be. Sure, I’ll never be a Physique Model, but I do want to proudly take my shirt off at the beach and not feel fat. At this point the initial, excitement has worn off and it has now become…routine. I want to look lean and toned. When I look in the mirror….That is not happening. After a few moments of moping. I had to tell myself that this is only the third week. I have nine more weeks to go. I have done so much work in these last few weeks that I should be proud of what I have accomplished thus far. I’m focused too much on the big picture at this stage. I think now I need to hone in and focus on small milestones. So I am going to refocus, and hope that after these 12 weeks are complete, the results that I am after will be there. If not, I will continue setting milestones until, I make it! Meanwhile I will start to enjoy the routine for what it is…..Eat, Sleep, Life, Repeat. I need this shirt! Wish me luck, please!
I started the day performing cardio in the gym on the Dynamize program on Bodybuilding.com. This is day four and I am enjoying it thus far. I am trying to lift heavier weight and shock the muscle each session. As far as nutrition is concerned, I have set myself up pretty well mentally to not eat out and to eat healthier meals. Trust me it was not easy, but I am in the swing of things now. This evening, after work, I made a stop at Kroger and I was searching for bodybuilding recipes only. I came across this Chicken and Zucchini Marinara. I just got finished devouring it. It is so good, you have to try it! Here’s how to do it!
I ran across this picture that was shared on Facebook and it reminded me of a discussion on ‘vulnerability’ that happened in the not so distant past. While, I am not huge on horoscopes, I admit vulnerability is not my strong suit..well.. not according to other’s standards, But I am not disabled by it.