In life it there are times when things appear out of our control. Life events, relationships, and projects become disordered at random intervals. We find ourselves asking the question, “How the heck did I get here. Why is there so much pain in my life.” I find myself from time to time asking the same question. We all do.
Have you ever wanted to know the secret sauce of success? It is a simple concept, really. They are small things that we do everyday without realizing their impact. I have come to realize just how these things shape who we are and where we want to go. That secret sauce to achieve the success we want is our habits. Goal achievement is formed through the creation, maintenance and management of habits. The purpose of habits is it to learn to do things quicker, smarter, more efficiently. We create new ones when the need arises. We maintain good habits, by tweaking them into simpler ones to implement. We manage habits by eliminating the bad or useless ones. We all have a number of habits that have led to a number of positive or negative outcomes. Many times these are so ingrained in us that they are subconscious. These usually direct the outcome our efforts. Over time, without consciously thinking about are actions, you come to an internal understanding that if you completed a task in one manner, you need to repeat it that way each time. For example, when stressed out I’d usually end up eating a larger meal. I also ended up gaining a ton of weight!
I have an upcoming post on 7 Ways to Create Habits That Stick. However, first, I wanted to take a moment to write about some of my habits and how they affect my life. After you go through, them I encourage you to write down some of your good and bad habits and how they affect your life.
There comes a point in our life when unexpected events prompt a sudden need for change. These surprises that life offers us take the form of break-ups, disease, job loss, death or even major life decisions. Do you remain stuck grieving events in your past? Perhaps you’ve run up against redundancies of life. Maybe relationships and friendships have become stagnate. It could even be possible that negativity continuously arises when as you participate in various activities.
I’ve learned that when you are trying to reach a goal or do anything of value, change upsets a lot of people’s personal agendas along the way. Friends, family & acquaintances can become your enemies and secretly plot in covert ways in an effort to shine. For far to long they’ve basked in their own mediocrity and are overwhelmed when your convenience to them is taken away. They look for holes and weaknesses, and play petty games.This is their time to shine. But the fruit of mal-intent is short lived. Realize that when enemies rise up against you, the Grace & Favor that got you this far will lead you on. Don’t be angry at anyone because everything comes back to the middle and our naysayers reap the fruit of mal-intent they sowed, for themselves. Smile, keep pushing forward and making progress to where you need to be. Don’t be fearful, be Bold. You just might have to upset some people.
This weekend, I attended the Roanoke Regional Writers Conference with my sister Jasmine. This was such a great conference! I am still on a ‘high’ from all of the information I received. This year’s focus was on blogging which I am engaging in a lot more these days! There were a number of great speakers divided into six sessions. It started at 8:15 and ended at 5:45 with lunch provided. We met some interesting writers that ranged from very accomplished, intermediates (like me) to newbies. There had to be about hundred writers there. There were lots of opportunities to connect with other writers. I even got the opportunity to review a local author’s book. I will post a link to when I am done with a link to his website. The session opened with the presentation of a scholarship to a Hollin’s student who submitted and essay for this scholarship.
Have you ever tried your coffee using the French Press style? My coffee will never go through a machine again! Even Grumpy agrees….despite his expression…Many coffee enthusiasts argue that it is a far more accurate way to have the perfect cup of coffee. It enhances the flavors and oils. The flavor is so bold, smoother and delicious. I used the 8 o’clock Coffee brand of Caramel Macchiato.